Many times, even if you are not willing to, you mess up with someone. An office colleague, a small fight on the road or with anyone.

And that happened because of all the fault of the person opposite to you.

In the spate of anger, you say something to him/her, or sometimes it gets beyond that.

At that particular time, you can’t control yourself and that happens.

Everyone around sees you in that avatar, which is new to them because of your always silent or calm nature.

That guy pissed you off and hence you behaved in that way.

After some time, you feel ashamed of your act and think that this is uncalled for.

You keep thinking and feel guilty inside and then decide to go and say sorry for your behaviour.

Let me make it clear, that, you are doing this i.e. saying sorry just because of your good manners and upbringing.

But please DON’T DO THAT.

If you do, it makes your case weak. It makes you a culprit in front of all. The person to whom you are going to say sorry will play it cleverly against you, making you the bad person.

Please keep that good nature aside and stick to what you were thinking, at the time of the clash.

Believe me, your feeling of ‘saying sorry’ will never make the case closed, but it will build up against you.

That shrewd guy will never forget and forgive you and will never think, the way you think.

So, stop being the kind person, and appeasing all. Let others think what they want to.

As a silent, shy person, you never get into such things, but if you do, then that’s something forcefully made you behave in that way.

So, hold on and stick to your guns.

My experience and a bit of advice to you.