Condolence Message

Topic today is a bit serious. But thinking of writing on this since a long time. Yesterday came to know that one of my landlord’s mother passed away. I tried reaching out to him, when couldn’t get through, then sent a message.

Expressing on something is already difficult for people like me and such situations make it even harder.

Also, conveying something like that in a language we are not proficient with, again add to the trouble.

In my corporate life, when I just joined the job, one such instance happened. That was the time when only calls and SMS services were available for daily interactions.

I looked for one of the oldies, who used to work with us as a freelancer, a retired person, good in English. We spoke about the incidence and I casually told him, “I don’t know what to put in such a situation”.

He then helped me draft a small message, which I sent and felt better.

I don’t know how much it’s helpful sending messages or talking in those situations or on that particular day. And also it’s not like that the other side awaiting our messages.

But it’s a custom that one should follow.

Just saying, ‘Sorry to know’ or ‘RIP’ seem more like formality.

If it’s just a formality to be done, for a lesser known person then okay, but few, who are close and in such situations, if we can’t visit or talk, then we should draft whatever coming to our mind.

An instance which the deceased and we were part of, a joyful moment, or how he/she supported us in certain situations. How, just being of that person means a world to us.

Put that one thing, which specifically reminds us about that person. No formality of language, just to convey the emotions.

Anyway, it’s not going to reach out to that person, but it certainly helps the family members that the one who departed, really made a difference in someone’s life.

It’s difficult, but have to do it and we must do it.

Sorry to bring out such sad/difficult subject.

Vb