Understanding Jealousy Among Friends: A Hidden Struggle

Two friends, or two sisters, or colleagues working in an organisation. All these have been together for a long time.

The friendship, those close bonds, that camaraderie; it seems like one wouldn’t think twice about dying for the other.

Everything goes normally, but fate has something in mind.

The one goes the other way and gets something better than the other. That ‘better’ may not be ‘too much’ many times.

A notch above and more from the other.

Things are still normal, the success gets celebrated, the one, a bit lower, celebrates more like he is the one who got that ‘better’.

Then, after a few days, the cracks can be seen and observed. The one who got the ‘better’ may not observe it, but the other guy has that continuous feeling of jealousy.

We started from the same place, we both gave the same efforts, toiled in the same way, but how come the other received the ‘better’ and not me?

Then that slow burning starts inside, it never come at the surface, everything goes the same as earlier.

As the other is one step ahead, its obviously that they will be getting a ‘better’ one than us.

So, we keep cribbing inside, but why?

We were the ones who always cherished each other’s success; we were the ones who never thought twice to die for the other, so why such a feeling of jealousy?

Should we ask it to God, or blame the luck factor in this? Or should we be calm, believing in the DESTINY?

Or is it because we have not had the chance, and if we had it, we could also have proven ourselves? The lost opportunity or the one that never came to us?

We try various means to calm ourselves. But most of the time, that feeling won’t go away. We stay together with that difference of ‘better’, but in our mind and heart, we never ever able to cross that ‘better’ and be the same again.